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love and confrontation



Hey John,
 
    I'm back, much to your chagrin.  I view you as a fighter, a teacher who does not teach.  I'm not going to insult you by lying to you.  I don't like you, and that's okay.  I don't have to like you, and you don't have to like me.  But I can still choose to love you.
 
The only way that I now know to love -you- is in confrontation with love.  Sun Tzu said that all warfare is based upon deception, and I think he was right.  The only way for our confrontation then to be in love is for me to become as butt naked as I can possibly get.  That is, for me not to deceive you and become vulnerable.  Perhaps in open confrontation, others will learn from both of us.
 
First, I want to repeat some things that I've heard in the past that I find amusing.
 
"No one wants to be wrong.  No one wants the responsibility of being right."
"It's the shoulds you should watch out for."
"It's arrogant to point out someone else's arrogance."
 
Well John, I think that you are arrogant and that you should be less so.
 
Look, I'm not a full-time fighter, just part-time.  I've never been in war.  I went to military school for a year (by choice) when I was sixteen and that is as close to it as I hope to get.  I met some good friends there though.
 
I still love you John.  I don't believe that you are malicious.  If I did then my behaviour towards you would be quite different.
 
You don't have to respond to me of course.   I'm not going to speak to you of 'truth', but perhaps it is past due that we speak of the measure of understanding.  How do we measure it?
 
 
David