Ah, I see. Thank you, John M, for the clarification.
Apparently we have been an unwitting object lesson in how painful it is to be misunderstood and how easy it is to misunderstand. Hopefully we can also serve to illustrate that it can also be rebalanced.
I think my biggest problem with communication is that I try so hard to say what I mean and mean what I say; with precision... as well as taking extra time to work to eliminate tactlessness without eliminating meaning, that to then be misunderstood really throws me sometimes.
On top of that, I thought you were giving me another treatise on "political correctness" and I've had a belly full. So, my exasperation was showing. I see now that it was unwarranted and I apologize.